"This" and "That".....two small words that are the cause of much controversy in singleness theology.
Now that Jeremiah’s off the hook, let’s take a look at the apostle Paul. Paul’s own letters, which fill up almost half of the New Testament, indicate that he was single not because God imposed the gift of singleness on him, but because he could freely choose to remain single – presumably because of his gift of not desiring sex as much as the average man and because he wanted to travel extensively in his ministry. In fact, Paul makes it clear that he could have married if he’d wanted to, indicating that his decision to be single was a personal choice, not an act of God. He says of himself and missionary partner Barnabas in I Corinthians 9:5, “Don’t we have the right to take a believing wife along with us, as do the other apostles and the Lord’s brothers and Cephas?”
Was Jesus commanded to remain single? Was he given the gift of singleness? We see no evidence of either in the Scriptures, but consider this dilemma: How could Jesus Christ, who was God in the flesh, ever settle down, get married, have sex, and father children? He had a very different purpose on this earth than the average man and the complications that would have arisen from such actions would have been numerous. For instance, what would we call Jesus’ spouse? The wife of God? Would his children be half-God and half-human? Please understand I’m not asking these questions to be irreverent, but to point out the inherent problems of comparing protracted singleness today to the singleness of Christ, the Savior of the world. Jesus remained single during his time on Earth not because he had the gift of singleness, but because he was, and is, God.