In my mother’s day, almost all women who wished to marry did marry. My mother married my dad less than six months after the two were introduced by an older couple at the church they were both attending. Before Dad came along, Mom turned down three marriage proposals by three other men. I have lost count how many times friends and acquaintances have told me how much I look and sound like my mom, yet our similarities end abruptly when it comes to our marriage opportunities. To be sure, in my mom’s day and even before, there was the occasional old maid – the quirky woman getting up in years that lived alone, owned fifteen cats, and frightened the neighborhood children. Today, however, the once uncommon old maid has become the norm. Why is it that a mere 40 years ago marriage was a simple, easy, choice-among-many-choices decision for Mom yet for me today it seems as likely as getting struck by lightning?
Old Maid. Fun as a card game. Terrifying as a lifestyle.
A large, ever-growing number of single woman are asking that same question and many evangelical pastors, church leaders, and Christian speakers and writers believe they have the answer. These evangelicals are not at all concerned that nearly half our country’s population is single and don’t see the necessity of a blog like Single, Unexpectedly. According to them, singleness, even in the unprecedented levels it has reached today, is simply not a problem. They are certain it is God’s plan. They feel that the answer to the concerns of frustrated single women is found in one verse of the Bible, First Corinthians 7:7, which reads:
I wish all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
I must be honest........I really don't want this gift.
Amy Carmichael definitely had "the gift".........but do I?